If yours is a sad Mother’s Day…

If yours is a sad Mother’s Day, I am praying for you.

If you wanted to be a mother but could not.

If you are a mother whose baby or child has died.

If you became a mother under unfortunate circumstances and released your baby for adoption.

If you had an abortion and you regret it.

If you are a mother whose child has abandoned you, rejected your love, or otherwise walked away from you.

If you are a mother whose child is separated from you by distance, military service, imprisonment, or other circumstances beyond your control.

If your mother has died.

If your mother has rejected you or has harmed you.

If your mother is separated from you by forces beyond your control, such as distance, military service, or imprisonment.

If you had a surrogate mother-figure in your life who is now gone from you.

If you are the father of children who have lost their mother, and would do anything to give back what was taken from them.

If you are the spouse or friend of a woman who grieves on Mother’s Day and have no words of consolation.

If you look at all the other mothers or all the people celebrating their mothers and wonder what’s wrong with you.

If you do your best to lower your gaze and plow through the weeks leading up to Mother’s Day without noticing the flowers and the pink-toned greeting cards,  and if the only church service you skip every year is the Mother’s Day one because all the mothers are asked to stand, and if the very thought of Mother’s Day leaves you feeling like your soul has been scoured with sand paper and every thought stings with an exposed rawness…

Then I’m praying for you. I wish you blessings and peace, and may your heart find comfort. You are not alone.


reblogged from 2009 because it’s been a while.


About philangelus

Mom, freelance writer, novelist, angelphile, Catholic, know-it-all.
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4 Responses to If yours is a sad Mother’s Day…

  1. Jason Block says:

    Thank you. I had the first POSITIVE Mother’s Day in YEARS. Went out to dinner with the family I helped raise money for Independence Park!

  2. Jane-
    This post had a very powerful message for me given that I have always had very lovely mother’s days, where I complained mostly about having to eat too many restaurant meals.

    Amongst my friends are one who could never conceive, several who spent many years trying, one who had preemies and didn’t make it, my sister, who gave their child up for adoption, a friend who has a drug addicted son, another who has Tourette syndrome and severe autism. I can not imagine the pain that these mothers feel.

    My Mother’s Days will be more thoughtful going forward.
    Thanks for a great post.

  3. celticadlx says:

    Every time I think of Mother’s day being special for me and my family I am always aware that not everyone is sharing my experience. Thank you for this post. It is thoughtful, has great meaning and acknowledges the other side that our society isn’t necessarily empathetic to when busy spending money.

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