I’ve recently come across several heartbreaking stories. There’s a prayer request up at one of my online boards for a Mrs. P whose husband abruptly decided to leave her and their 10 children (that’s not a typo) and apparently, if nothing changes, the law is written in such a way that he will only owe his wife $250 a month in child support.
Just wrap your brain around that for a moment.
At the same time, someone pointed out a weblog where a different women is in remarkably similar circumstances, only further into the process. I can’t even begin to describe her case in a blog post, only that I was shocked when I read some of the legal decisions by the judge, the guardian-ad-litem, the lawyers… If this is the way our “justice” system works, then I no longer have any faith in it.
Now last year, there was a similar story from one of the Two Sleepy Mommies at their weblog, where the husband apparently took leave of his senses and began the same story (affair, departure, etc) only it had a different ending, and the husband credits the prayers of hundreds of unknown readers for his turnaround.
It’s easy to blog and say “Families are under attack in these days!” but sometimes, isn’t it true that we’re the ones attacking ourselves? No one forced those men to react to pressure by destroying their own families, and certainly not some of the vicious tactics mentioned (two of the three stories involve men defaulting on the mortgage payments so the house where their children live gets foreclosed.) The families in all three stories must have been dealing with different struggles, but there are positive and negative ways to respond to struggle.
Our responsibility as human beings is to ask ourselves, with regard to our own struggles, “What is the most loving way to respond to this crisis?”
And from a distance, I’d like to request prayers specially for all three families, but in general for all families in danger of tearing themselves apart. May God have mercy on the children of those families. May families in crisis find the support they need to overcome the blockages in their paths.